this is still an old fantasy I’ve never really succeeded in trying. 

I’m not hinting I want to try this on Valentines day. On Monday night I want to be the Dom as usual. Sometime tho, maybe when I’ve got the suspension point in the ceiling fixed (after the mothers’ inspection!).

The recurring elements of this fantasy for me, going back at least 5yrs too, are:

First it’s key I’m in an awestruck with love and adoration kind of mood. I don’t feel like submitting to just any woman, I have to be in love and be feeling particularly awestruck and adoring to be really in the mood for this. It’s what I call the ‘Ferocious Mother Kali archetype’, or in other words when you’re showing being fiercely loving and kind and loyal, not bitchy or domineering, that turns me on this much and makes me want to kneel and kiss you. 

I used to fantasise over and over about my female partner pinning me up against the wall while kissing me hard and shoving her knee between my legs just hard enough to be threatening or give me a warm achey glow in my balls, but not an acute pain.

Then I want to be led upstairs moderately forcefully, possibly dragging me by my balls (carefully), or any form of being taken and used as a sex object. Handcuffing me first is an option. I don’t mind if you want to hood me first too -it does make it easier on the domming side.

I would like to be flogged, preferably while tied up with my hands above my head tied to the suspension point in the bedroom, and if money were no obstacle, I’d like to have a really thick heavy leather flogger that would do mostly thud and little or no sting, so you could let loose with full force and make me swing with the strength of the hits. I’d like to do this to you too, but the heavy leather floggers are £65, and as you say we have enough toys for now.

I also used to fantasise a lot about cock bondage and (mild, careful) cock and ball torture (CBT, but not computer based training!)  -this requires you learning how by me demonstrating first before we try this scene with you in charge. There’s a fine line between warm achey glow that is a massive turn-on and bad pain. 

When I was asked to be demo bunny at the first rope workshop I went to (I think I was picked because I was the most attractive guy there, but I would think that wouldn’t I…), then I found out I do really like rope bondage, and I like it quite tight. It feels best when the ropes are moderately tight and applied fairly roughly.

Then you can ride me, or make me lick your pussy, or both. I’d like to be explicitly used as your sex slave/ pet for a change. If we can borrow K’s pegging strap-on, then I’d like to try that once too.

I think this could be good for both of us to understand the other side of our dynamic better -perhaps especially for you. You’ll find it’s hard playing the Dom(me), but you can’t give up because I have expectations. See what I did there? If you persist through the initial inhibitions and awkward not knowing what to do, I guarantee it becomes fun, really fun.

I promise I will still prefer being the Dom overall, but I want you to try it from the other side, and I want to experience what it feels like on the receiving end too. 

dage:

or would you rather

~grins and winks~

(Source: tentingwithwood)

this is still an old fantasy I’ve never really succeeded in trying. 

I’m not hinting I want to try this on Valentines day. On Monday night I want to be the Dom as usual. Sometime tho, maybe when I’ve got the suspension point in the ceiling fixed (after the mothers’ inspection!).

The recurring elements of this fantasy for me, going back at least 5yrs too, are:

First it’s key I’m in an awestruck with love and adoration kind of mood. I don’t feel like submitting to just any woman, I have to be in love and be feeling particularly awestruck and adoring to be really in the mood for this. It’s what I call the ‘Ferocious Mother Kali archetype’, or in other words when you’re showing being fiercely loving and kind and loyal, not bitchy or domineering, that turns me on this much and makes me want to kneel and kiss you. 

I used to fantasise over and over about my female partner pinning me up against the wall while kissing me hard and shoving her knee between my legs just hard enough to be threatening or give me a warm achey glow in my balls, but not an acute pain.

Then I want to be led upstairs moderately forcefully, possibly dragging me by my balls (carefully), or any form of being taken and used as a sex object. Handcuffing me first is an option. I don’t mind if you want to hood me first too -it does make it easier on the domming side.

I would like to be flogged, preferably while tied up with my hands above my head tied to the suspension point in the bedroom, and if money were no obstacle, I’d like to have a really thick heavy leather flogger that would do mostly thud and little or no sting, so you could let loose with full force and make me swing with the strength of the hits. I’d like to do this to you too, but the heavy leather floggers are £65, and as you say we have enough toys for now.

I also used to fantasise a lot about cock bondage and (mild, careful) cock and ball torture (CBT, but not computer based training!)  -this requires you learning how by me demonstrating first before we try this scene with you in charge. There’s a fine line between warm achey glow that is a massive turn-on and bad pain. 

When I was asked to be demo bunny at the first rope workshop I went to (I think I was picked because I was the most attractive guy there, but I would think that wouldn’t I…), then I found out I do really like rope bondage, and I like it quite tight. It feels best when the ropes are moderately tight and applied fairly roughly.

Then you can ride me, or make me lick your pussy, or both. I’d like to be explicitly used as your sex slave/ pet for a change. If we can borrow K’s pegging strap-on, then I’d like to try that once too.

I think this could be good for both of us to understand the other side of our dynamic better -perhaps especially for you. You’ll find it’s hard playing the Dom(me), but you can’t give up because I have expectations. See what I did there? If you persist through the initial inhibitions and awkward not knowing what to do, I guarantee it becomes fun, really fun.

I promise I will still prefer being the Dom overall, but I want you to try it from the other side, and I want to experience what it feels like on the receiving end too. 

dage:

or would you rather

~grins and winks~

(Source: tentingwithwood)