ariaonthefloor:

swaybound:

This is one of the best parts. Holding her close, petting her hair, comforting her, and telling her how well she took her training or punishment.

It also reminds me of something else: at first I was a bit hesitant to directly ask her to do well for me or to compliment her on taking pain, because I couldn’t get rid of the thought that I’d be “abusing” her susceptible state. I didn’t want to manipulate her. Because, let’s face it, if you tell your sub that she can prove herself or that something will make you proud of her, she’ll usually go way further than if she gets no such motivation. So I tried to emotionally support her, without associating my affection with her performance too often.

But now I think I was just kidding myself. I think she partly does it to prove and push herself, to experience a physical and emotional roller-coaster ride, and to feel that interesting mix between empowerment and helplessness. And that is only possible when you sometimes draw her through. It’s a mix between push and pull. You push her to the edge by being stern and demanding, and then pull her by comforting her and helping her find her inner strength. By avoiding part of that, I think I just took the edge off sometimes.

Sometimes the most difficult part about playing the Dominant is going far enough. It’s easy to wield the cane and challenge her physically, but it’s the emotional parts that are seem to be more important. And more difficult.

Sometimes I feel like Daddy has nestled in my brain and made himself a comfortable room there. I love that about us. :)

(Source: diapertown)

ariaonthefloor:

swaybound:

This is one of the best parts. Holding her close, petting her hair, comforting her, and telling her how well she took her training or punishment.

It also reminds me of something else: at first I was a bit hesitant to directly ask her to do well for me or to compliment her on taking pain, because I couldn’t get rid of the thought that I’d be “abusing” her susceptible state. I didn’t want to manipulate her. Because, let’s face it, if you tell your sub that she can prove herself or that something will make you proud of her, she’ll usually go way further than if she gets no such motivation. So I tried to emotionally support her, without associating my affection with her performance too often.

But now I think I was just kidding myself. I think she partly does it to prove and push herself, to experience a physical and emotional roller-coaster ride, and to feel that interesting mix between empowerment and helplessness. And that is only possible when you sometimes draw her through. It’s a mix between push and pull. You push her to the edge by being stern and demanding, and then pull her by comforting her and helping her find her inner strength. By avoiding part of that, I think I just took the edge off sometimes.

Sometimes the most difficult part about playing the Dominant is going far enough. It’s easy to wield the cane and challenge her physically, but it’s the emotional parts that are seem to be more important. And more difficult.

Sometimes I feel like Daddy has nestled in my brain and made himself a comfortable room there. I love that about us. :)

(Source: diapertown)